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Valentine’s Day is around the corner! Crazyyy!! Whether you are spending it with a significant other, or going on a date with a new person, love and dating are in the air. And guess what, dating and relationships are for EVERYONE. But when it comes to dating amputees, here are a few things that you should know about us. This will help you become more familiar with our daily lives, and to become more comfortable in the “getting-to-know-you” stage, which can only move your relationships along to bigger things – like love!
Be patient. Patience is a huge factor in any relationship, but especially if you are dating an amputee. Most of the time, it takes a little longer to get ready. Putting on prosthetic legs, and putting pants or shoes on those legs all take time! So, be patient!
Many doctors’ appointments. When it comes to amputation, lots of different doctor’s appointments will be in the future. Why? Well, because our prosthetics need lots of care and attention! There will also be physical therapy, psychologists and general doctors. Life is scheduled around appointments, because it is all part of the journey to get walking again. Be supportive, offer to accompany the person you are dating to any of their appointments.
Remember, people stare, like all the time! Everyone stares – whether it’s children or adults. Prosthetic legs are out of the ordinary and to see someone walking through the street on them can be crazy!!! Or, like I like to call them – my robot legs. There are people who will come up to the person you are dating on the street and say things like, “God bless you”, “thank you for your service”, or anything along those lines. We know they mean well, but all it does is draw more attention to our disability. Some people ask questions nicely and out of pure curiosity. Some people point and stare and laugh. Amputations are not contagious, and just because someone is different does not make them bad or less of a person. Everybody is a little different, but some differences are clearly more prominent than others. Try not to let it bother you and follow the lead of the person you are dating. They’ll know when to react and when not to!
Funny one – You’ll get your feet stepped on all the time. Another major challenge to dating an amputee is the amount of times he/she does not know where their prosthetic feet are. Ask my husband! 😉 This leads to accidentally stepping on your foot and ouch, it can hurt, or so I’ve heard!!! Sorry… Be prepared and watch your feet. LOL!
And finally, focus on the person, not on their disability. We amputees are funny, can get mad or frightened, we can cook, be loving, play sports, we can cry and can go shopping. Once you start to focus on how much we live a normal life, you’ll forget about our disability. Next time, think of that person as the person you are dating, not the amputee you are dating. 😉 You never know where this can lead to!
Happy Dating and we hope Cupid’s Arrow hits you! ❤