Growing up, I always knew that I wanted a baby of my own, but was never sure if it was possible. Who would want children with me if I am missing limbs? This thought had ALWAYS crossed my mind. Being called disabled didn’t help. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to take care of a baby, because I am “disabled” and disabled people are the ones who usually “need” help. On top of all of this, I was anxious on how my prosthesis would fit when I gained weight during pregnancy and how, with my physical limitations, would I care for my newborn.
Honestly, I feel like a lot of amputees don’t want children for many of these reasons. A baby is a scary thing for everyone – amputee or non-amputee – because babies are fragile and require your care 24/7.
I gave birth 2 months ago to Gabriel, and it was one of the toughest, yet the most rewarding things I’ve done – I became a mom!
Coming home from the hospital and my first time holding Gabriel since he was in NICU
I am a bilateral A/k and B/k amputee! I will say this – being a mom with two prostheses is hard, but it is absolutely possible!
I absolutely adore his chubby cheeks
I will admit, I didn’t like pregnancy – it was just not my thing. Maybe because I didn’t have anyone to talk to about what to expect with pregnancy and my amputation. I didn’t like that I was getting bigger and all the body changes that began to happen. I was always uncomfortable. I felt guilty because there are so many ladies who want to get pregnant, yet here I am complaining on how much I hate being pregnant. I was always asked if my baby will have complications or missing limbs, which was very annoying. I’d still love him even if he did have some complications. After the delivery, I felt like a new person. My body, despite having normal post-partum aches and pains, felt “normal” again. I was happier! Plus, I had the sweetest, chunkiest, and snuggliest baby boy!
Those thighs though 😉
Here’s the truth – despite wearing two prosthetic legs and missing fingers, I am still able to manage my little one. It all seems to work out. Remember, when a baby first comes, he or she doesn’t move much. You’ll grow along with the baby. Just take one day at the time. Each day gives you the energy for the next.
His smile is precious <obsessed mom here>
Anxieties surrounding pregnancy and the arrival of a new baby are common to every new mother (and father). If you are an amputee and considering becoming a parent, don’t let these anxieties scare you. Nearly all parents will agree that the rewards of having children are worth it. Having a better understanding of what to expect as an amputee parent will help relieve these anxieties.
Obviously, this is coming from me, a new mom. However, this applies to all new amputee dads, as well!
Gabriel hanging out with daddy
Your body might not experience pregnancy, but your whole life will change with this new addition, and even though you are an amputee, you can still be a wonderful father to your baby.
In conclusion, don’t let your challenges impede your life goals. If you want to become a parent, don’t let the amputation stop you. 🙂